As our son, Preston, continues to get older and seems to be maintaining a pretty high level of interest in sports (mostly soccer and basketball, but American football appears to be looming in the future), Karen and I talk often about some of the things that SHOULD actually be important in a kid's athletics experience.
I say SHOULD because winning, competing and reaching for that next goal (no pun intended... well, maybe a little) all seem to be at the top of the reasons parents want their kids to participate in sports.
In reality, there's clearly a much bigger picture to keep in mind. How about life's lessons related to sportsmanship, goal-setting, trust, team-building and self-esteem? Shouldn't things like this be at the top of the list?
As we all make frequent jokes about orange slices, juice boxes and a trophy for every child, some of these things really do make the experience fun and memorable for the kids, the coaches and the parents involved.
It's hard not to laugh when I think back about Preston's first soccer experience with the U-6 Hurricanes (coached by one of the nicer people on this earth - Rob Hodges) in the Santa Clara (Calif.) PAL program. I reflect back on those days and remember how supportive all the parents were on the sidelines! The constant cheering and support for the kids was really cool. A kid would score and we'd cheer. The kids would make a mistake and we'd still cheer, laugh and try to be supportive.
Don't misunderstand. The Hurricanes dominated! Didn't lose a game (not that we kept score - cough, cough!). Why? Solid, positive coaching. Kids who were having a fun time and enjoying the experience. And, supportive parents who were concerned about very little other than making sure their kids had a good time and maintained an enjoyment for the sport.
The photo above (by the way) is from the DeAnza Force U8 or U9 boys at a tournament someplace - probably at Sonoma State. From left: Logan, Preston, Andrew and Nick B.
"You'll be dedicated and that's what you should want to be in anything in life - whether it's sports or academics or your relationship. It all stems from finding that fun, that thrill, that excitement." - former U.S. National Team soccer player Brandi Chastain.
There are some really good web resources out there that address how sports should be viewed these days. They all do really good work and deserve a little attention for their efforts. Check them out when you get a chance!
If you have any other great resources on this topic, please feel free to pass them along in the comments box on this page!